When you’re pregnant (if not before) you’ve got to investigate all of your options. Is your OB-GYN making you feel comfortable and capable? Finding time to answer all of your questions? Helping you prepare emotionally and intellectually for childbirth? If you’re not happy with your current caregiver, it’s not too late to make big changes (provided you’re not already 36 weeks!).
A midwife’s model of care is totally different than an OB-GYN. While an OB is trained to be well-versed in medical ways to address problems during childbirth, a midwife is trained to appreciate the process of childbirth as a natural, powerful and sacred event. And, she brings natural tools for addressing problems and pain of which an OB is often completely unaware. An OB views birth as something to be controlled or “made-safe”. A midwife views birth as something to gently assist (both physically and emotionally) and respect – it’s already safe in most cases.
Of course, these are just generalizations – there are many exceptions to the rule. The first midwife I interviewed was discouraging and controlling! But, the other two I hired were wise, respectful and reassuring. I encourage you to consider the care of a midwife and/or that of a doula, who can make a tremendous difference in how you’ll feel about your birth experience. Each birth is a unique, miraculous experience that only occurs once. It’s yours to be enjoyed – yes, really!
Here are some great links for beginning your search: